Love One Another
I am a Christian. I am new to the event industry. Events include weddings. Weddings include same-sex couples. A touchy subject for Christians. So what do I do?
I took a poll among my Christian friends to see how they would address a same-sex couple who might approach me for assistance for planning, designing or providing florals/décor for their special day. The responses were divided.
“With same-sex marriage against your faith, perhaps you should decline to host an event that celebrates a same-sex union. It seems like a conflict of interest. But, whatever you decide, we support you.”
“Christ decidedly met with everyone who made decisions and lived lifestyles He did not agree with in order to spread the gospel. He loved everyone, meeting everyone right where they were. We think; so long as you make it known what you believe in, why not help a same-sex couple? But, whatever you decide, we support you.”
Where does this leave me?
I will never deny that I am a Christian and that, by faith, I do not agree with a same-sex relationship. I will also never deny that, by faith, Jesus stated the one virtue to hold above the rest was to love one another as we wished to be loved ourselves. To leave judgement to Him and Him only and to display nothing but love, compassion, forgiveness and grace in the same manner we should provide to heterosexual couples. Would I decline to assist a couple who lives together because that disagrees with my faith? No. Would I decline to assist a couple who is expecting out of wedlock because that disagrees with my faith? No. Would I not assist a client who is atheist, Jewish or the like? No. So why would I discriminate against a same-sex couple? To me, that does not seem fair.
I know that some Christians will take a firmer stance when it comes to providing service for a couple of the same sex. For me, I wish to show love and what Christ truly stood for - kindness, grace and inclusion. Christ sought out those in need and living in sin and taught that no sin is greater or less than any other sin. Those who tell little white lies and those who marry the same sex are all on level playing grounds and Christ loved them all. I sin and I am a Christian. How does this make me better than anyone else? It does not. Christ did not discriminate. He did not deflect. He did not see Himself as above anyone. Segregation was never His agenda. Discrimination was never a method to His ministry. He just hoped we'd decide to request forgiveness and to follow Him. So, as I have heard it said, “I’m not anti-anything, I’m pro-Jesus”. I choose to disagree and not discriminate. I am certain there are many people who probably disagree with what I believe in, stand for and how I live my life. I would be hurt if a lesbian or gay person chose not to work with me or provide a service because of my faith. If we all chose to separate ourselves from each other over disagreements, well, I know I would be missing out on some incredible individuals I have come to know and love in my life.
Let me wrap up on this note. I will never forget Kay. The lesbian neighbor who lived across the street from my family. When I left for college, she became very good friends with my parents (Who are very strong Christians. In fact, my father is a pastor.). She knew my parent’s stance and they knew hers regarding same-sex relationships but that did not keep her from being invited to and coming for dinner and everyone enjoying each other’s company evening after evening. She was part of the family.
My youngest brother is agnostic. I cringe at the thought. That did not keep me from going to his wedding nor does it keep me from visiting with him and my sister-in-law as often as I can (both of which, by the way, are amazing people). We know their stance and they know my husband’s and mine. We still love each other.
No judgement, no pressure, no entitlement allowed.